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The above statement may sound strange, but there is a lot of truth in it. Parents often think that they know better what is best for their children. They believe that they have the right to choose their children's future. This is often caused by their love towards the children and by the fact that they want to protect them. But that can also be because of their vanity or because they do not treat their children as individuals but rather as a way to satisfy their own needs. There is nothing strange then that in such cases a child – feeling neither respect, nor understanding – may hate their parents so much that they do not even want to meet them till their parents' death.
The control independent work on:
“The Spanish painter”
Grodno,2013
2. Chapter 3
Chapter 4
3. If you have never been hated by your child, you
have never been a parent.
The above statement may sound
strange, but there is a lot of truth in it. Parents often
think that they know better what is best for their children. They believe
that they have the right to choose their children's future. This is
often caused by their love towards the children and by the fact that
they want to protect them. But that can also be because of their vanity
or because they do not treat their children as individuals but rather
as a way to satisfy their own needs. There is nothing strange then that
in such cases a child – feeling neither respect, nor understanding
– may hate their parents so much that they do not even want to meet
them till their parents' death.
Such was the case of a young artist, Charlie (The
Spanish Painter by William Taine), whose mother did not understand his
love for drawing. They had “never had such low ideas or such low people
in … family”, and she wanted “the fine, useful career” for her
son – that was her idea of politics, something really worth doing
in her opinion, the thing Charlie's father did. You may think she just
wanted good for her son – a good job and a good wife in the future.
But when she says “It is my duty to the memory of his dear father”
and “If he refuses to change his mind... I'll close my door in his
face” you can easily see that she has neither love, nor respect for
her child. It does not matter for her that Charlie loves drawing, even
that he may have a talent, she does not care for his feelings and she
is not even afraid of hurting him. She asks Mendoza, a famous artist
Charlie respects a lot, to tell her son he has no talent no matter what
the truth is. Mendoza is a wise man, a smart one. He sees in Charlie's
drawings a fine future for the talented boy and he does for him a lot
more than his own mother. He accepts the money from Charlie's mother
and lies to the boy that he cannot draw but gives him the money through
his lawyer. He keeps secret about who the money comes from and the money
is to be received weekly during five years – a small sum, enough for
modest life and at the same time for Charlie's career of an artist to
be continued. In fact, he is more of a parent here for Charlie than
Charlie's mother, and Charlie feels that. He is full of gratefulness
for the kind stranger and he does not want to have anything to do with
his mother. And he becomes a true artist.
I believe there is something in every parent that
makes them want to live their children's life, to choose for their children,
to avoid mistakes, to use their experience in order to protect their
children. Parents should be careful about that – and many of them
are - because this is the easiest way to make their children unhappy
and helpless. And this can also be the reason for being hated by their
children. Most parents heard at least once “I hate you” from their
child – this should be a warning for them. But when this is not love,
care or fear make them act in a disrespectful way towards the children,
but things like vanity or their own satisfaction, then I must say they
deserve to be hated.